Friday, May 24, 2013

Thank You Teachers!!!!

As the school year comes to a close, I just want to Thank Teachers. Most of them are not appreciated, paid or given enough credit for what they do for our children on a daily basis. 

I have been lucky (and I know this) that my first son has been a breeze and it was smooth sailing so far as he finishes up Middle School and heads to High school in the fall. He has never struggled or been in trouble, so I do realize and maybe don’t fully understand some of the run ins other parents may have had in those categories with teachers. I also realize that ALL teachers are not GREAT teachers, but the ones I have been lucky enough to deal with so far have been and this is the kind of teacher I am referring to. I have several friends that are teachers and they have wanted to be teachers all their lives. These types of teachers love our children and it’s not just their “job”, it’s their purpose in life to educate, inspire, motivate and make a difference in our children’s lives. 

Too many people send their child off to elementary school, oh free daycare. They are educators not Nannies. They also see a different child than you do or the same child but in a different light. They give advice and too many times parents don’t believe them, well please believe them, trust them and consider it like as you would if you were talking to their pediatrician. 

Teachers deal with so much and are trying to make a difference in classrooms across America that are filled to capacity. So I think sometimes we need to step back and take another look……..

Behavior, Your child misbehaves in school. Parents are immediately on the defense. They turn to the child and say “Is this true?” No dumbass the teacher called you in for this conference to lie to your face. Of course it’s true. Don’t be demeaning, doubtful or talk negatively about their teachers in front of them, that is not going to help anyone.

Stop making excuses for them. They know the assignments, they know how they are expected to act, they know the dress code, they know they can’t play sports if they fail, they knew when the test was; they know when the homework is due.  Some parents will make excuses regardless of the situation, and they are raising children who will grow into adults who turn toward excuses and do not do what they should but expect things to be given to them anyway.

As a parent I know it's OK for children to get in trouble sometimes, it’s normal; it builds character and teaches life lessons. As a parent I know if a child is given a 70 on a project/test, then that is what they deserved. As a parent I also know you don't have to set up a time to meet every time the child misbehaves or does lousy on a test, maybe you should take the time meet with your child and hold them accountable. 

This day in age a Teacher is more than an educator. They play mother, father, psychologist, friend, and adviser every day. Plus, they are watching for learning
disabilities, issues at home, peer pressure, drug abuse, and bullying. Hell, in today’s world they are risking their lives to save them or even dying saving them, from intruders with guns, bombs, students that take their own school hostage and laying their own bodies over your child to save them in a natural disaster. These teachers love your children.

Teachers don’t arrive at school 10 minutes before your child does and leave the minute they get back on the bus. Many of them put in extra hours before and after school, to plan, tutor students, grade papers, have meetings and just to make themselves accessible at a convenient time for you and your child.

I love my children as much as you love yours. I think as a parent we need to trust, support and work with the system not against it. Respect your children’s teachers and their school, in return they will too.
Parents and teachers really are on the same side. 

I think the students teachers remember most are the happy, respectful, participating, well mannered and the ones that give 100%; it’s not necessarily the ones with the highest grades.

As a parent the teachers I LOVED in elementary school were the ones with big ideas, the ones who went out of their way to help my child, and the ones who had full on and great communication skills. Now as a parent of a teenager who is heading to high school in the fall, I remember the ones my boy comes home and talks about. The classes he tells me about. I know they must be the kind of teacher that deserves appreciation and recognition.

Again, I realize not ALL teachers live up to this but for the ones who do THANK YOU!!

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Liebster Award

I was nominated for the Libester Award, by the Awesome Cut My Milk. I have pimped this page out several times, as it’s one of my favorites. So Thank You. 

The Liebster award is given to smaller up and coming bloggers.  What is a Liebster?  The meaning: Liebster is German and means sweetest, kindest, nicest, dearest, beloved, lovely, kind, pleasant, valued, cute, endearing, and welcoming. Yeah, that sounds like ME! 

These awards are a form of recognition from fellow bloggers and to gain exposure to your blog in the big old blogging world. 

The rules for this one state that you answer the 11 questions asked of you by the Blogger who gave you this award. 

My 11 Interview Questions from Cut My Milk

1. What piece of advice would you give to your 18 year old self? To have more courage! I also would of told her never to work for anyone, start your own business doing something you LOVE! Don’t give all your time to someone else’s dreams or purpose!

2. What would you change about yourself? The fact that I hold grudges. Even if I forgive or forgave you, deep down I NEVER forget what someone has done to me or how they hurt me.

3. What is your favorite smell? Perfume! I am a perfume Whore and addict, but it has to be the good stuff, so apparently I’m a perfume bitch too. I probably have about 25 bottles right now, all top shelf!

4. What is your earliest memory? I think when my Mother brought my sister home from the hospital. I was almost 4.

5. What is the best thing about where you live? The people. We have met so many great families through our neighborhood and school.

6. If you could go back in time, where & when would you go? My favorite era is the 1940’s. I love the cars, the clothes the way of life. Where would I go, well I would be Allie and I would go looking for Noah Calhoun (aka Ryan Gosling), in Coastal North Carolina.

7. What is the one thing you couldn't live without? My boys! I need them, they make me whole!

8. Why do you blog? I started this blog strictly for myself and to get back to ME. Heal my inner self, from my sadness, and my unhealthy ways. It has become so much more and I am ok with that.

9. What are you frightened of? One of my biggest fears is driving off a bridge and not being able to get out of the car, get the kids out or unbuckle the car seat. I have no idea why I obsess about this because the likelihood this will happen is slim. But I do have a device in my car (in a handy place) that breaks windows under water. I got it from a fire department.

10. What is your favorite movie? Pretty Woman, my all time favorite.

11. Do you have any pet hates? What the hell is a pet hate? Like a pet peeve…
People that push the elevator button over and over, because that’s going to make it come quicker!
People that leave the bathroom and do not wash their hands- Gross!
People who talk with their mouths full of food
Cashiers that ask for your phone number

My 11 Questions for the Awesome Bloggers I am going to Nominate

1.   How old are you?

2.   If you could be granted 1 wish what would you wish for?

3.   Do you collect anything as a hobby?

4.   What was the first blog you started following?

5.   What is the purpose of your blog?

6.   What is something you would do if you could get away with it?

7.   Who is your “crush” and why?

8.   Why is your best friend your best friend?

9.   Where do you live and how long have you lived there?

10.                What is your favorite type of music?

11.                How many kids do you have?

Lastly, 11 Random Facts about ME

1.   I live in Scotia, NY

2.   I have 4 tattoos and nothing is pierced besides my ears

3.   I hate Mice and snakes

4.   I regularly and on schedule get pedicures and get my eyebrows waxed.

5.   I like to brag about my children, because they deserve it and have earned it, not because I think they are better than someone else’s

6.   I will not compete with anyone about anything or be jealous of anything.

7.   I work harder than I lead on and my job is more important than I lead on.

8.   I am funny. I crack everyone up.

9.   When you first meet me I seem quiet and just as an acquaintance you would not believe the shit I do or say, until you’ve seen me in action.

10.                I love Mexican food!

11.                I wear glasses everyday all day at work

These are my Nominees:
Comfy Town Chronicles
The formerly Hot Housewife
Mamas Time Out
Poison’d Ivy
My Name is Not Mom
Mom the Pirate
 Not Everyone Can be a Mermaid
The Down and Dirty Home
Mommy’s Weird
The Vanilla Housewife
Smart Mouthed Mama

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Bouquet of Three Award

Aside from today being another ordinary, rushing, tiring, day In The House of JMarts, this morning I was given a bouquet. This would brighten any woman’s day; of course, well this wasn’t just any bouquet. It was a Bouquet of Three Award.  I sadly didn’t even know what this was until, I researched a little. I am only 5 months old in this huge blogging world. But I soon realized that this was my VERY 1st blog nomination!!! 

Bouquet Three Award

I started this blog to improve and heal myself from the inside out. I had no idea how much I would love it, how much writing helps your soul and how much I love saying what everyone thinks but is too afraid to say. It’s not a perfect world and being a mother is wonderful but also hard, why pretend it’s not and sugarcoat all this shit. Put it out there so all Mother’s realize they are NOT ALONE! 

This means a lot to me because I have put myself out there 100%. I know this is only one little award, however  it tells me that I am out there and that I reached someone by sharing my trials and triumphs of things that really matter to me. I have come a long way in a few months and have realized many things. But most importantly I have realized that unless you face your inner demons and shine light into the darkness and on your sadness you will never be better on the inside or the outside. This blog has been fun, healing, entertaining and meaningful to me. There are so many I have “met” and interacted with that make me realize we are all in this together! 

So Thank you for the nomination. 

I will be getting nominations together for the Bouquet of Three Award, now that I know there is so much more to blogging, supporting and sharing.

When nominated you are suppose to share 7 interesting things about yourself for your readers…..Only 7? haha but Ok…

1.       I have two identical moles on each cheek that most people don’t even notice, have you?
2.       I have 4 tattoos
3.       I have no clue about Math, literally
4.       I could of moved to California when I was 21, but decided against it
5.       I was voted “Class Clown” in high school (shocker)
6.       I don’t hate my job, I think I just hate working, I’m over it
7.       As a wife/mother I do not iron or clean bathtubs

Thanks Again!!!